Unadulterated Arrogance

Wednesday, March 09, 2005

Making sense of sensitivity.

"You insensitive jerk!", If you are a male aged between 1 and 299, the chances of you being told the same by someone from the opposite sex; be it your mother, wife, girl, sister or even your cleaning lady is a 100 percent. The fairer sex accuse us of insensitivity but are all males insensitive? Is it the genetic make up of us guys that is the cause of this phenomenon?... Is there a special insensitive gene in us?.... well no, its not that we are not insensitive, its just that we don't see eye to eye with females on what constitutes sensitivity and what does not.

Laughing at the wet eyed females in the theatre when the Titanic has just sunk is not insensitive; its just natural. I mean when you see a group of women crying at the climax of a movie, your natural reaction is to laugh at this absurdity. Women find this insensitive whereas we guys don't. We just differ with them on certain mundane things which does not merit an iota of attention which they spend hours on. My mother's driver was ill and being the 'sensitive' son that I am; I was driving her to work when we saw a huge car wreck. My natural reaction was, 'Oh no!, the Benz is wrecked!!'... and it started the ball rolling as in, "how insensitive you are ?" .. for heavens sake, even the guy who had the accident must have been more worried about the Merc than himself.. I know I would be... So you see its not that we are not sensitive, we just differ with you on what is sensitive and what is not... and if you still think you know a guy who is completely sensitive, well then, he is either gay or he is trying to sleep with you. The possibility of the latter is a much higher probability mind you.


  • LOL.Whats with you and "men are from mars and women are from venus" thing? I beg to differ with you, I know men who are sensitive to so many things that a female might just not notice.And all these men are perfectly straight and secure with no intentions of hitting on any female around them. I think sensitivity varies from a person to person regardless of gender. Let me tell you, Jinu Johnson, not all men are insensitive and not all women are extra-sensitive. You will realise this when you meet an insensitive woman.There's no direct relationship to one's sensibility and one's gender.

    By Blogger wookie, at 3/09/2005 04:39:00 PM  

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    By Blogger Sangeeta, at 3/09/2005 07:50:00 PM  

  • Nods head in assent. Makes a lot of sense to me.

    By Blogger Sangeeta, at 3/09/2005 07:51:00 PM  

  • Yeah baby, somebody agrees with moi...good.

    Wookie, you always decipher my psychopathic vibes perfectly but today you are way off the mark. I didn't say that men are insensitive, I highlighted the fact that what women construe as sensitivity and what men construe as sensitivity are completely different. We are all sensitive and thats my point...

    By Blogger injinuity, at 3/09/2005 10:08:00 PM  

  • The last few lines got my full attention. One more enlightened soul ... LOL. Do you know what's ironic - The sensitive women never ever sense the 'motives' behind the 'sensitivity' of a so called sensitive man. But that's another story.

    My next comment should not be taken personally - Capice? I dont know you I dont know your mom - this is just an off hand remark and is not personal to you and your mom ... seriously.

    I see women who show sympathy and sorrow at the loss of someone else's property / person. They cry when they see the titanic. They cry when they see a hurt puppy dog. They cry when their child suffers from some ... injury / sickness. BUT Its the woman who hardens heself against the same person for a trivial matter and accuses the other of insensitivity. Never the man. And if the man does accuse another of insensitivity - he's Petty and ... Insecure and treacherous.

    I'm not gonna raise the flag and defend womankind - because experience has taught me that woman is woman's own enemy - Not Man. Man - as long as he has nothing he has no enemy. When he has a 'sensitive' woman by his side he gets all the attention and enemies for a life time LOL - heck Yes.


    By Blogger Loveena, at 3/10/2005 12:30:00 AM  

  • Yes Trouv, you are right... I wonder how those same sensitive females would feel if her man were to sit and cry more than her at the movies.. would sit and complain about everything.. they would be so engrossed in their own petty little things that they would not have time to comfort the female...

    Whenever a female I know comes up with something really sensitive I just scratch myself and nod in consent... I don't start shedding tears myself.. and I have a feeling that most females don't want us to do it either but none are willing to accept it... I dare anyone to come out openly and accept the facts ;-)

    By Blogger injinuity, at 3/10/2005 01:30:00 AM  

  • I always decipher your psychopathic vibes? Looks like we had a cross-connection this time:P All I meant to say was that I get a feeling that you think men and women are so different that they can never agree upon anything. And I think that's not true.
    p.s-read your post again, sorry you didn't say men are insensitive :D

    By Blogger wookie, at 3/10/2005 09:01:00 AM  

  • well,in my -little experience-in men's affiars..i always felt that men are are big babies..we always mothers to them..its diffrent ofcors from one culture to anothr but here..i always feel like that there are always exceptions for the rule..
    at the end..we complete each other and thats why we live togther;)

    By Blogger -bubwit, at 3/11/2005 03:27:00 PM  

  • Yup bubwit, I couldn't say that all are big babies but most of us deep down are still little kids... that reminds me.. let me call mom and get on her nerves ;-)

    By Blogger injinuity, at 3/11/2005 10:21:00 PM  

  • Ah.. the insensitive issue. Come to think about it they use the "insensitive" term quite oftenly, like when we make toilet humour, or laughing at climatic scenes of a sappy movie or (almost definitely) when we see an expensive car in an accident. Come to think about it, if we become more "sensitive" your masculinity shrinks, and your friends starts buying pink frocks, mascara & martinis for you instead of the usual dirty mags and beer. Do we always live in crossroads? Do we fight to preserve our masculinty and sexuality everyday? Or are we just confused and the term that men and women are opposites hold true? Guess this makes life more interesting. :)

    By Blogger Alex, at 3/12/2005 07:18:00 AM  

  • There are few movies worse than "Titanic". How anyone can cry at that movie is a mystery for me. Maybe they cried at its awfulness.

    By Blogger Irina Tsukerman, at 3/13/2005 04:24:00 PM  

  • amen to that Irina, guess there is till hope after all eh?

    By Blogger injinuity, at 3/14/2005 11:02:00 AM  

  • amen to that Irina, guess there is till hope after all eh?

    By Blogger injinuity, at 3/14/2005 11:02:00 AM  

  • I am beginning to believe that you have some issues regarding guilt, otherwise you would not champion your own arrogance or force your posts to revolve completely around a defense or justification of one contentious opinion or another.

    You have a wonderful talent to write and that is why I hesitate to write this (and bury it deep in your blog), but I just wish your subject matter was not so intent on coming from such a limiting perspective.

    By Blogger Misc Debris, at 4/25/2005 10:16:00 AM  

  • It's a lot about hormones. But I don't know if homos have more or less of female hormones...

    By Anonymous Jon, at 5/01/2005 03:06:00 PM  

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